Create your own Tea Ritual

Ritual and Ceremony are a lost art in our modern world, but they are so vital to our spiritual wellness.

Ceremony is the bridge between our ordinary life and our spiritual world.


You can join a few friends for a tea ceremony, and use your own intuitive guidance to make it special and personal for what you need. You can also incorporate a ritual of your own into your daily practice. Here are some tips:

Create a space and time for your personal tea ritual, enjoy the process

Your Personal Tea Ritual

10 – 15 minutes of uninterrupted time is all that is required.  Like all great moments, set the tone for the occasion, include what has meaning for you. Drink your tea slowly and with reverance, with the intent to get in touch with your spiritual side.

Here are some possible suggestions:

  • Select a special cup and saucer, perhaps have a special place
  • Read a poem. Out loud.
  • Say a little prayer.
  • Play a special song or music.
  • Light a candle, or incense. Focus on the light and think on your intentions for this tea time.
  • Just sit quietly. Sometimes, less is more. Sit in nature if you can – out on your patio or garden
  • Do what feels right for you, just do it with intention and meaning

Close the Ritual:

  • Close with a moment of gratitude
  • Thank yourself for giving yourself the space
  • Give thanks for the nourishing ritual that you were able to enjoy

Create a ritual that supports and nourishes you, to make you feel happy and whole

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Tea Ceremony

I am fascinated by all types of ceremonies, and the meaning placed in the preparation and actions.  The Japanese tea ceremony is an intricate ceremony steeped with meaning, including the preparation of the tea well before the day of ceremony, and the preparation of the guests who are attending.

This Tea Ceremony blog outlines 6 simple steps to the ceremony.

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Ceremony is the bridge between our Soul and ordinary life 




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Wholeness is needed, not Holiness!

Great artice I wanted to pass along. It is time to move out of the cycle of healing and not moving forward in wholeness.

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Self Care – Breaking free from our Roles

Are the roles you are playing keeping you stuck?

Staying stuck in your comfort zone has alot to do with the roles you are playing in your life. We perceive that we are the story we have created – these are stories that define us… and confine us!  We confine ourselves to the label that we or someone else has created for us.

Self care requires reflection on our inner selves. One of the steps of self care we can take is to release us from these conditioned patterns so that we are free. Often these roles we perceive ourselves in create stress and anxiety in our lives – we work so hard to fill those roles, to our own detriment!

I want to share a story Laura shared with me after we had a discussion about the importance of looking at our roles.

On Sunday, Laura had an argument with her husband, they went to bed with it unresolved. On Monday, Laura got up and though “this is it, we are done.” So she began looking at properties, she was moving out. Tuesday she began looking at rental properties. On Wednesday, she decided even if she didn’t leave for good, she would get away for a few months.  Her mind was working on this problem, what she didn’t see, was how her roles were affecting this situation.

So Laura sat quietly, and asked her intuitive guide for advice, with whom she has developed a special connection through quiet contemplation. Her answer:

“You don’t need a divorce from your marriage. You need to divorce from your roles you are playing.”

From this information, Laura came to realize that she was playing out aspects of a role she didn’t want to.  And on further inspection, she started to identify how this role was keeping her stuck.  She realized that she was creating  a label that nobody else in her family had stuck on her, she had done it to herself.

She went on to tell me that never in her whole experience of marriage had her husband voiced an expectation that dinner had to be on the table. Never had her children complained or set an expectation. She had done this herself – she had an expectation based on a role she was playing out as a mother.

After doing some internal work around this role, Laura was able to embrace and value the work she does as a mother, but not remain stuck in the role. A while later, she did not have dinner on the table, and she had no guilt around it. Her family was fine with it, everyone managed for themselves.

Laura set up a story around the role she was playing, she set up the expectation, but later resented it. When she identified the role, and examined it, she was able to release herself from being confined in a pattern that she had created.

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I want to help you to make better choices that release you from your stories that are confining you – your roles. I want to help you step into you becoming our true selves. We can do this together by examining your roles, and stripping them away using the Simple Living philosophy.

It is time to stop being confined by your roles, and step into  your true authentic self.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by identifying your roles.


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Self Care – Identify the payoff for staying where you are

Identify the payoff for staying where you are.


Often we stay stuck due to fear. We stay in our comfort zone. The biggest reaction to fear is avoidance. So we create these routines that allow us to avoid what makes us fearful.

Self care includes looking at what is perpetuating the stress and the fear, what is creating physical, emotional and mental stress. Fear keeps 80% of people in fight or flight mode – this causes our body to secrete adrenaline.  The release of chemical messengers results in the production of the hormone cortisol, which increases blood pressure, blood sugar, and suppresses the immune system. Over an extended time, your organs start to wear out. We can stop this cycle by looking at the cause of our fears, digging into what is happening beyond the surface.

What else keeps us stuck? Often its the story we tell ourselves – it gives us a reason we are not successful, we cannot move forward, or we cannot make a change. We tell ourselves and others these stories. And these stories free us from the responsibility of moving forward. Change can be hard, and the fear makes causes discomfort. So we collude with our stories, and others buy into our stories too, and there is the payoff – we get to stay in our comfort zone!

Fear can be our greatest ENEMY or it can become our greatest ALLY. Take the time to talk to your fear, look at what is behind the fear, feel the feelings, engage with them. Often when we do this, they become much smaller, and more manageable.

Ask yourself these questions, and perhaps keep a  journal. This exercise might take several tries to become comfortable, but it will help you to move forward.

  • What do you fear?
  • Why do you fear it?
  • How does it imprison you?
  • What does it hold you back from doing?
  • How much energy do I give my fears? time spent supporting them, or running from them?

By identifying the answers to these questions, you can make decisions on how and when to move forward, and make changes.

In my personal experience, it is often when the discomfort and pain of staying where you are is greater than the fear of the unknown, that you get the courage to change. The payoff is no longer serving you.

Take the time to identify these stories your are telling yourself, and how they are serving you. The Roles you are playing in your life are perpetuating your patterns that keep you stuck.

Are playing your roles keeping you stuck? 

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar, where I teach you to break free from your roles. Follow me on Facebook, and go to to get the online program.

A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.

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Self Care – Identify where you are focusing on others and ignoring your own patterns

Self Care – so what does focusing on others have to do with taking care of ourselves?

Many of us are uncomfortable with our feelings, it can be painful, and we can be fearful of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions. Often as a result we create patterns of avoidance to mask our fear. And we get so stuck in the cycle of avoidance, that we no longer recognize it, we are stuck in unawareness, it becomes our shadow.

When we are not comfortable with our shadow, we project it outward, and let others wear it for us. We begin to focus on others, in patterns of victim, or rescuer. We take on those roles and focus on others, and do not listen to the clues that are triggered within. When we are rescuing someone, or creating a story how we are a victim at the hands of another, we are focusing on them, and creating conflict. If we begin to react to the stress created from the conflict, and it starts to erode our mental, emotional and physical health.

We are in a time of great transformation – we are moving from conflict and adverserial relationships t0 peaceful ones. But right now, as this new energy is being ushered in, people are gripped in fear. Avoidance is our greatest reaction to fear. So when we dont want to feel the fear, we avoid it by focusing on others.

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Life is an inside job.

If you could release yourself from these patterns, how much energy would you free up for something more constructive? Just take one step forward, and the universe will support you. Things can move forward quickly for us in the first few months of this year.

We are so busy entertaining ourselves, keeping our minds busy so that you do not think or feel, that you miss out on the endless flow of creativity available to you. Your true path will arise from your connection to your creativity, to nonphysical reality.

Our emotions can be very uncomfortable. Looking at our own patterns can be scary. But if we feel the fear, and do it anyway, that is the pattern that will move us forward.

I believe that each one of us is here to do something that you excel at – something you bring to the world that you are good at. And I believe that 2017 is the year to find that GIFT you bring to the world. This is the year to reach your highest potential.

You can reach that highest potential by stop taking care of everyone around you and start focusing on how you can take your gift into the world. Its time to start listening to the inner voice that is calling you to live to your highest potential.

It is time to stop focusing on others and start shining your light out into the world.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.


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