What your self care level reveals about you

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Tea Ceremony

I am fascinated by all types of ceremonies, and the meaning placed in the preparation and actions.  The Japanese tea ceremony is an intricate ceremony steeped with meaning, including the preparation of the tea well before the day of ceremony, and the preparation of the guests who are attending.

This Tea Ceremony blog outlines 6 simple steps to the ceremony.

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Ceremony is the bridge between our Soul and ordinary life 

 

 

 

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Wholeness is needed, not Holiness!

Great artice I wanted to pass along. It is time to move out of the cycle of healing and not moving forward in wholeness.

http://enlighteninglife.com/integrating-5d-acceptance/

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Self Care – Breaking free from our Roles

Are the roles you are playing keeping you stuck?

Staying stuck in your comfort zone has alot to do with the roles you are playing in your life. We perceive that we are the story we have created – these are stories that define us… and confine us!  We confine ourselves to the label that we or someone else has created for us.

Self care requires reflection on our inner selves. One of the steps of self care we can take is to release us from these conditioned patterns so that we are free. Often these roles we perceive ourselves in create stress and anxiety in our lives – we work so hard to fill those roles, to our own detriment!

I want to share a story Laura shared with me after we had a discussion about the importance of looking at our roles.

On Sunday, Laura had an argument with her husband, they went to bed with it unresolved. On Monday, Laura got up and though “this is it, we are done.” So she began looking at properties, she was moving out. Tuesday she began looking at rental properties. On Wednesday, she decided even if she didn’t leave for good, she would get away for a few months.  Her mind was working on this problem, what she didn’t see, was how her roles were affecting this situation.

So Laura sat quietly, and asked her intuitive guide for advice, with whom she has developed a special connection through quiet contemplation. Her answer:

“You don’t need a divorce from your marriage. You need to divorce from your roles you are playing.”

From this information, Laura came to realize that she was playing out aspects of a role she didn’t want to.  And on further inspection, she started to identify how this role was keeping her stuck.  She realized that she was creating  a label that nobody else in her family had stuck on her, she had done it to herself.

She went on to tell me that never in her whole experience of marriage had her husband voiced an expectation that dinner had to be on the table. Never had her children complained or set an expectation. She had done this herself – she had an expectation based on a role she was playing out as a mother.

After doing some internal work around this role, Laura was able to embrace and value the work she does as a mother, but not remain stuck in the role. A while later, she did not have dinner on the table, and she had no guilt around it. Her family was fine with it, everyone managed for themselves.

Laura set up a story around the role she was playing, she set up the expectation, but later resented it. When she identified the role, and examined it, she was able to release herself from being confined in a pattern that she had created.

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I want to help you to make better choices that release you from your stories that are confining you – your roles. I want to help you step into you becoming our true selves. We can do this together by examining your roles, and stripping them away using the Simple Living philosophy.

It is time to stop being confined by your roles, and step into  your true authentic self.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to www.wind-haven.com to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by identifying your roles.

 

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Self Care – Identify the payoff for staying where you are

Identify the payoff for staying where you are.

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Often we stay stuck due to fear. We stay in our comfort zone. The biggest reaction to fear is avoidance. So we create these routines that allow us to avoid what makes us fearful.

Self care includes looking at what is perpetuating the stress and the fear, what is creating physical, emotional and mental stress. Fear keeps 80% of people in fight or flight mode – this causes our body to secrete adrenaline.  The release of chemical messengers results in the production of the hormone cortisol, which increases blood pressure, blood sugar, and suppresses the immune system. Over an extended time, your organs start to wear out. We can stop this cycle by looking at the cause of our fears, digging into what is happening beyond the surface.

What else keeps us stuck? Often its the story we tell ourselves – it gives us a reason we are not successful, we cannot move forward, or we cannot make a change. We tell ourselves and others these stories. And these stories free us from the responsibility of moving forward. Change can be hard, and the fear makes causes discomfort. So we collude with our stories, and others buy into our stories too, and there is the payoff – we get to stay in our comfort zone!

Fear can be our greatest ENEMY or it can become our greatest ALLY. Take the time to talk to your fear, look at what is behind the fear, feel the feelings, engage with them. Often when we do this, they become much smaller, and more manageable.

Ask yourself these questions, and perhaps keep a  journal. This exercise might take several tries to become comfortable, but it will help you to move forward.

  • What do you fear?
  • Why do you fear it?
  • How does it imprison you?
  • What does it hold you back from doing?
  • How much energy do I give my fears? time spent supporting them, or running from them?

By identifying the answers to these questions, you can make decisions on how and when to move forward, and make changes.

In my personal experience, it is often when the discomfort and pain of staying where you are is greater than the fear of the unknown, that you get the courage to change. The payoff is no longer serving you.

Take the time to identify these stories your are telling yourself, and how they are serving you. The Roles you are playing in your life are perpetuating your patterns that keep you stuck.

Are playing your roles keeping you stuck? 

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar, where I teach you to break free from your roles. Follow me on Facebook, and go to www.wind-haven.com to get the online program.

A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.

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Self Care – Identify where you are focusing on others and ignoring your own patterns

Self Care – so what does focusing on others have to do with taking care of ourselves?

Many of us are uncomfortable with our feelings, it can be painful, and we can be fearful of allowing ourselves to feel our emotions. Often as a result we create patterns of avoidance to mask our fear. And we get so stuck in the cycle of avoidance, that we no longer recognize it, we are stuck in unawareness, it becomes our shadow.

When we are not comfortable with our shadow, we project it outward, and let others wear it for us. We begin to focus on others, in patterns of victim, or rescuer. We take on those roles and focus on others, and do not listen to the clues that are triggered within. When we are rescuing someone, or creating a story how we are a victim at the hands of another, we are focusing on them, and creating conflict. If we begin to react to the stress created from the conflict, and it starts to erode our mental, emotional and physical health.

We are in a time of great transformation – we are moving from conflict and adverserial relationships t0 peaceful ones. But right now, as this new energy is being ushered in, people are gripped in fear. Avoidance is our greatest reaction to fear. So when we dont want to feel the fear, we avoid it by focusing on others.

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Life is an inside job.

If you could release yourself from these patterns, how much energy would you free up for something more constructive? Just take one step forward, and the universe will support you. Things can move forward quickly for us in the first few months of this year.

We are so busy entertaining ourselves, keeping our minds busy so that you do not think or feel, that you miss out on the endless flow of creativity available to you. Your true path will arise from your connection to your creativity, to nonphysical reality.

Our emotions can be very uncomfortable. Looking at our own patterns can be scary. But if we feel the fear, and do it anyway, that is the pattern that will move us forward.

I believe that each one of us is here to do something that you excel at – something you bring to the world that you are good at. And I believe that 2017 is the year to find that GIFT you bring to the world. This is the year to reach your highest potential.

You can reach that highest potential by stop taking care of everyone around you and start focusing on how you can take your gift into the world. Its time to start listening to the inner voice that is calling you to live to your highest potential.

It is time to stop focusing on others and start shining your light out into the world.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to www.wind-haven.com to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.

 

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Self Care – Identify where you are not taking care of yourself

2017 is a year that we need to practice extreme self care. This is going to be a great year if we take the time to do our work – practicing self care is one of those things that will make this a year full of joy and abundance.

Identify where you are not taking care of yourself.

This may include a list of the obvious things, including eating right, smoking and drinking less, or getting more exercise. Yes, look at those, and make small changes, a little at a time.

One of the areas I encourage you to look at is where you spend your time. Do you feel like you just dont have enough time to accomplish the things you need to, so this is one of the reasons that self care is pushed to the bottom of the list?

Pay attention to who you are choosing to spend your time with. You may have to make some adjustments. If you are spending time with people who deplete your energy, who constantly complain, and are negative, but do nothing to change their lives – stop spending time with them! Choose to spend your time in more positive relationships, or in more uplifting activities. You dont need to cut them out completely, but limit the amount of time you spend.

Pay attention to the activities you are spending time on. Are they productive? Are they uplifting? One of the activities that I want to talk about is movie marathons, or binge TV watching. People watch an average of 2-6 episodes of a series in one sitting. Its positively addictive – if you watch box sets of tv series, or have streaming television, it is so seductive to just watch one more… believe me, I have been seduced!  I have gone through a whole 2 day weekend where all I did was watch movie marathons. I came away thinking of the things I didnt get done, feeling drained and exhausted, and thinking now I have to start the work week and I feel so tired.

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What I have noticed people are doing is creating a routine that isolates them. Have you designed safe routines that allow you to avoid what you dont want to feel or experience? You  subconsciously create this safe but unnatural routine. But this routine is keeping you stuck in a pattern of avoidance.

In 2017, I encourage you to create new habits. What can you do for just 5 minutes that will break you out of your routine? The routine that you unconsciously designed to avoid your uncomfortable feelings.

Do anything that is out of normal makes you confront what your routine is designed to avoid. Think of the experience before getting on a roller coaster, your energy is changed. Contraction before expansion. People are missing the action step, get on the roller coaster, step out of your apartment for 5 minutes. A lot of us are in the state of worry and inaction.

Action steps are empowering! Make peace with the discomfort and the emotions. You cant meet your highest potential if you don’t meet those lower emotions. You can get into a loop where you are so stuck, trapped in the state of inaction. Find something that will shift that pattern – anything that will bring you awareness.  Action brings you in the direction you want. Step forward into the unknown, even if its scary. Put one foot forward, feel the discomfort, then listen to what that emotion is telling you. Then take another step. Take a risk, treat it as an adventure.

Some things you can consider doing:

  • get out of your house – go to the local coffee shop, take a class
  • Go for a 5 minute walk in nature
  • volunteer ( search: volunteer Calgary)
  • join a club (meetup.com)
  • start a hobby

I believe that each one of us is here to do something that you excel at – something you bring to the world that you are good at. And I believe that 2017 is the year to find that GIFT you bring to the world. This is the year to reach your highest potential. But you wont discover that highest potential hiding out in your bedroom!

Finding your highest potential starts with taking care of yourself. Self care has to make it on the list this year.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to www.wind-haven.com to get the online program. I also offer coaching and energy sessions, if you need help to make changes in your life.

A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.

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