Self Care – Breaking free from our Roles

Are the roles you are playing keeping you stuck?

Staying stuck in your comfort zone has alot to do with the roles you are playing in your life. We perceive that we are the story we have created – these are stories that define us… and confine us!  We confine ourselves to the label that we or someone else has created for us.

Self care requires reflection on our inner selves. One of the steps of self care we can take is to release us from these conditioned patterns so that we are free. Often these roles we perceive ourselves in create stress and anxiety in our lives – we work so hard to fill those roles, to our own detriment!

I want to share a story Laura shared with me after we had a discussion about the importance of looking at our roles.

On Sunday, Laura had an argument with her husband, they went to bed with it unresolved. On Monday, Laura got up and though “this is it, we are done.” So she began looking at properties, she was moving out. Tuesday she began looking at rental properties. On Wednesday, she decided even if she didn’t leave for good, she would get away for a few months.  Her mind was working on this problem, what she didn’t see, was how her roles were affecting this situation.

So Laura sat quietly, and asked her intuitive guide for advice, with whom she has developed a special connection through quiet contemplation. Her answer:

“You don’t need a divorce from your marriage. You need to divorce from your roles you are playing.”

From this information, Laura came to realize that she was playing out aspects of a role she didn’t want to.  And on further inspection, she started to identify how this role was keeping her stuck.  She realized that she was creating  a label that nobody else in her family had stuck on her, she had done it to herself.

She went on to tell me that never in her whole experience of marriage had her husband voiced an expectation that dinner had to be on the table. Never had her children complained or set an expectation. She had done this herself – she had an expectation based on a role she was playing out as a mother.

After doing some internal work around this role, Laura was able to embrace and value the work she does as a mother, but not remain stuck in the role. A while later, she did not have dinner on the table, and she had no guilt around it. Her family was fine with it, everyone managed for themselves.

Laura set up a story around the role she was playing, she set up the expectation, but later resented it. When she identified the role, and examined it, she was able to release herself from being confined in a pattern that she had created.

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I want to help you to make better choices that release you from your stories that are confining you – your roles. I want to help you step into you becoming our true selves. We can do this together by examining your roles, and stripping them away using the Simple Living philosophy.

It is time to stop being confined by your roles, and step into  your true authentic self.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by identifying your roles.



About Deanna Wind Haven Shaman

Deanna Strandquist is a modern day Shaman who uses the ancient wisdom in our modern world. Working with a shaman is an approach to self care that puts you in charge to‍‍‍ clear a full range of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual influences that affect your overall well being. When the traditional methods are no longer working, consider exploring another way to break free to live your life in an authentic way.
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