Self Care – Identify the message behind the emotions

Self Care is something we decide we need, and perhaps it is a big part of our New Years Resolutions – to eat better, get more exercise,  stop drinking, stop smoking, etc. But where do the wheels fall off the bike? Often we do well for a few days, then fall back into old habits. Then we decide to stop trying, its just too hard.

But just remember, are you going to change all at once? No, you probably will fail. But you have many little opportunities to make small changes, it is not going to happen in one moment. How can you do that?

Lets look at the first step that can help you to practice self care and lead to positive, lasting changes:

  1. Slow down – become fully present

When we look at the reason behind our habit – drinking, eating, smoking – often emotional issues lie beneath, and often the habit is developed to numb our emotions. Many of you have experienced very painful life events that have been very challenging for you.

Are you impacted in your home as one of the Albertans who have lost their jobs? Calgary’s unemployment rate hit a new high (Nov 2016)…  There is going to be a lag in the labour market improving coming out of this recession, and as a result I think Albertans need to brace themselves for still some tough months ahead in the (2017) labour market. (Todd Hirsch, ATB Financial told iNews880)

Whether you have experienced emotional loss, through death or divorce, have health issues, financial issues, I encourage you to look at this from the souls perspective. What is each emotion you are experiencing really trying to tell you? What is the benefit for you?

Learn to surrender to those feelings of hopelessness, anger, sadness, and allow them to come up, and become fully present to their message. Find a safe place you can do this. Allow these feelings to be washed up and be released. Be fully present to their message for you.

An analogy would be that you had a car accident on the way to work,  but not examining that the reason for the accident in the first place was a hatred of your job  and a desperate need to change jobs and a knowing that the time for growth and change was propelling you in a new direction. Your soul set up the accident for you, and created an opportunity. How sad if you got locked into the feelings of fear and bitterness, when you are missing the wonderful opportunity for growth.

Feel the feelings, be fully present to them, rather than attempting to numb them with food, drink, or television. Surrender fully to the feelings, allow them to wash through, release them, and you will feel so much lighter energetically! Will it be painful? Yes, but it will be worth it.feel-emotions

I remember my first time I experienced this feeling. I  was doing some journey work with a shaman coach, and noticed some feelings I had stuffed down since childhood. She encouraged me to allow the feelings to come up. I cried, and was sure I was going to throw up right there on her carpet! I allowed the feelings to rise, I became fully present to what they were telling me, and I didn’t get sick – the feelings released, and in that moment my vibration became lighter and clearer because I was no longer stuffing those feelings down. I was emotionally and physically exhausted, but I was free from those heavy, dark emotions I had been carrying around. Imagine the feeling of freedom!


Imagine the possibility of doing that for yourself. What emotions are you carrying around that you are ignoring, pushing away? What are you not allowing yourself to engage with because it seems if you do this, you might fall apart and never recover? I guarantee you will. Allow yourself to slow down, and become fully present to your emotions.

I encourage you to find me on Facebook @windhavenshaman and click on my introductory video for the Simple Living online Seminar. Follow me on Facebook, and go to to get the online program. A simple life is a meaningful life, and you can get there by practicing extreme self care.


About Deanna Wind Haven Shaman

Deanna Strandquist is a modern day Shaman who uses the ancient wisdom in our modern world. Working with a shaman is an approach to self care that puts you in charge to‍‍‍ clear a full range of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual influences that affect your overall well being. When the traditional methods are no longer working, consider exploring another way to break free to live your life in an authentic way.
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