The two biggest topics fight about are money and sex. Clear communication and negotiation skills are key factors in successfully navigating these top relationship mine fields.
Following are some tips to navigate your way:
- Focus on your own wants, needs and desires and be clear on what you need. Also be clear on how you will fulfill them – yourself. Fill your own cup, dont make demands on others to fill it for you – this will only lead to disappointment and failure.
- Negotiate – dont retaliate. There are always two sides to every discussion, and punishing your partner for disagreeing with you can cause unnecessary tension. Remember that sex should NEVER be used for a bartering tool.
- Treat your relationship like a business meeting – be prepared for a clear, frank discussion on a regular basis. Setting aside emotions is critical to keeping balance in negotiations.
70% of communication is non-verbal, so keep in mind how you are acting, facial expressions, and body language might be contradicting what is said. Avoid making subtle suggestions, then allow it to fester and grow beneath the surface, and erupt when least expected, and the other person will be completely blindsided by something they didn’t see coming. Be clear and honest about how you are feeling.
Commit to open and honest communication in your relationship. Practice spending time alone together in which to have regular discussions. Never be too busy with life to devote time to your relationship.
Devote time alone with your partner to having open and honest communication.