Is there someone at work who keeps doing something that you just can’t stand? Would you like to tell her off? Or try to avoid him because he pushes your buttons?
What is the solution to coping with your coworker?
Take a closer look at what is really going on here. Our issues can usually be found pretty close to home. Something that triggers our emotions so profoundly about someone else is something we cannot stand in ourselves.
It is our ego! What we cannot own in ourselves we project. What we don’t own in ourselves shows up all around us. And the ego leads us to believe we are so clever, but we are really so obvious — when we project our “shadow selves” or the part we cannot own, everyone around us can see what is going on. The only one you are fooling is yourself.
In his book “Power, Freedom, & Grace”, author Deepak Chopra describes EGO.
“Behind the curtain of intellect and emotions is your self-image or ego. The ego is not your real self; it is the image that you have slowly built over time. It is the mask behind which you hide, but it is not the real you. And because it’s not real you, but a fraud, its lives in fear. It wants approval. It needs to control. And it follows you wherever you go!”
So the best way to deal with the issues with your coworker? Leave your Ego at the door! This is not an easy task. Your ego wants control.
How can you get your ego under control? By getting to know yourself. When you ignore your ego, it runs rampant in your life, like a spoiled child at the family gathering that annoys everyone with her tantrums.
When you recognize yourself showing up in those around you, such as that coworker you can’t stand, take a moment to recognize that it is only a mirror of you, and it is the universe telling you something about yourself, which is a gift to you.
One of the aspects of Soul Intelligence is to connect with your Higher Self rather than your ego. Become comfortable with your shadow, learn to recognize it for what it is, and it will lose its power over your life. So the best way to deal with your coworker is to become comfortable with the parts of yourself you cannot stand and project out into the world.
Recognize yourself coming to greet you in the mirror, and leave your ego at the door!