Here is a post from Jennifer Hoffman in time for Valentine’s Day. Again, wonderful article from her! Read on… and Happy Valentines Day!
The title of this article is from a Lady Gaga song and it an appropriate subject for this time of year as we celebrate love. Valentine’s Day is all about romantic love but there are many other kinds of love we can celebrate – with our friends, family, children, pets, etc. And we also have to remember to celebrate ourselves on this day because we are the most important we can love in our life. Yes, it’s true. The most important person anyone can love is themselves, for two reasons:
1. because we will have a hard time getting love from anyone if we don’t love ourselves, and
2. we can never create a level of love in our outer reality that is greater than that which we have for ourselves.
When we ask for someone to give us love and we don’t have love for ourselves, it is as if we are presenting them with our empty love basket and asking them to fill it for us. We want them to show us that we are lovable, worthy and deserving of love. We want them to fill in our empty spaces, resolve our loneliness and worse, show us that we are not the unlovable person we think that we are. Our search for love has less to do with wanting love, we need someone to love us so that our greatest fear is not realized, that we are truly unlovable.
But when we approach love from this perspective we don’t find it because we know, from the Law of Attraction, that we can only attract love if we already have it. And while that seems counter intuitive-why would we need love if we already have it, it is a universal law. Whatever we don’t have within we cannot create without because we create our reality from the inside out.
And with respect to the second point, we can’t create more love without than we have within. No matter how much we want a loving, fulfilling relationship with a partner who truly adores us, if we do not already have that level of love for ourselves, we will not be able to find someone who can give it to us.
When we present ourselves to the world with an empty love basket we attract people whose love baskets are also empty. While that connection can initially feel like we have met a soul mate (and we have) we are connected through our need for love. Then as the relationship progresses we find that they can’t meet our needs because they do not have enough love for themselves, much less to give to us. These kinds of relationships can leave us feeling empty, unfulfilled and end with heartbreak. But we are always pointed back to ourselves-what did we start with and what did we hope would happen.
Don’t let the images of happy couples that inundate the airwaves this weekend make you feel like you are unlucky, undeserving and that others have love that you do not. First of all, it’s all pretend because the people in the ads are actors. They don’t really love each other. And if your heart desires a loving relationship it is possible for you but you have to work on loving yourself first, to believe with your heart that you deserve love, can have it, that it is possible for you and that you can create it. It is possible for each of us to have the partner we desire, as long as we remember that this person will be a reflection of our self love, not someone who finally sees the beautiful person within us and rewards us by giving us the love we have wanted for so long.
The more love we have for ourselves, the more our world will be filled with people who love us and not just romantic love, we will be surrounded by people who love, honor and respect us because we love, honor and respect ourselves. No matter how much we want our lives to be different, unless we are willing to create those differences from within, we will be disappointed by the results we see.
Life is an inside job and so is love.
So if you want someone who is kind and considerate, be kind and considerate with yourself. If you want someone who recognizes your inner beauty, see it for yourself first. If you want someone who acknowledges your gifts, start by recognizing them yourself. And if you want someone to love you a lot, love yourself that much and more. Then the love you want to create in your life will be there for you because your love basket will be full and you will find a partner whose love basket is also full so together, you will have to full baskets instead of one. Think of the possibilities.
Become the observer in your life as you stay focused on your path in this moment.
In these interesting and transformational times, we can be overwhelmed by what is happening in our lives but there are always other solutions. Here are a few things to help you get through the difficult moments in your life:
Stay calm, focused, detached and aware and remember your thoughts are creating every moment of your life. Think the best ones.
As you ponder this and the other things that are happening at this time remember to:
Accept all gifts of understanding with gratitude and use them to apply forgiveness, release and healing to every situation.
Ask for guidance and confirmation and then wait for it to come to you.
Above all, be grateful for this opportunity to be part of humanity’s amazing shift in consciousness as we all ascend into the miracle vibration.
Many blessings in these miraculous and amazing times,