I was struggling with an issue, so visited my Shaman friend today to help me get a better look at what exactly was the issue — the big picture. I was caught up in my own story, and needed a fresh perspective.
Our own stories are very personal to us, and we get so caught up in the story, sometimes we forget to look at what is really going on. We might be going through divorce, have money issues, have health issues… these things can come up suddenly, almost without warning, and take on huge proportions in our lives.
We have been conditioned to believe that if we analyze our story, thinking and talking about it from all angles, it will help us to change our habits and its the key to turning our lives around. The problem is… we often come from our mental perspective, and over-think our problems.
When we give a huge amount of energy to our story by thinking about it and talking about it to anyone who will listen, it makes it bigger and much worse. All of our energy goes into thinking about it, worrying about it, and it takes on nightmare proportions!
Our problem is… we are focused on our problems!
Look for what this situation is teaching you, and what opportunities it is showing you.
For example, you get fired from a job that you hated anyway, and should have left a long time ago.
When we look at our story, we tend to look outside ourselves, and blame everyone and everything around us for our situation. The terrible ex-husband, the horrible boss, etc… To change your perspective, ask yourself “What is this telling me about ME?”
What is really going on? Look at what beliefs, what fears, in us might have created this situation.
When we buy into our own story, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. “SEE! it happened just like I thought it would!” Of course it did! …we create our own reality, and we did a wonderful job of creating the story in front of us. And the painful truth is, until we shift our story, we will keep creating it over and over again in our lives.
So rather than buying into our story, we can change our perspective and see the situation as neither good nor bad, but as an opportunity to learn something about ourselves. Awareness is the first step in changing our story.