Change our Story

I was struggling with an issue, so visited my Shaman friend today to help me get a better look at what exactly was the issue — the big picture. I was caught up in my own story, and needed a fresh perspective.

Our own stories are very personal to us, and we get so caught up in the story, sometimes we forget to look at what is really going on. We might be going through divorce, have money issues, have health issues… these things can come up suddenly, almost without warning, and take on huge proportions in our lives.

We have been conditioned to believe that if we analyze our story, thinking and talking about it from all angles, it will help us to change our habits and its the key to turning our lives around. The problem is… we often come from our mental perspective, and over-think our problems.

When we give a huge amount of energy to our story by thinking about it and talking about it to anyone who will listen, it makes it bigger and much worse. All of our energy goes into thinking about it, worrying about it, and it takes on nightmare proportions!

Our problem is… we are focused on our problems!

Look for what this situation is teaching you, and what opportunities it is showing you.
For example, you get fired from a job that you hated anyway, and should have left a long time ago.

When we look at our story, we tend to look outside ourselves, and blame everyone and everything around us for our situation. The terrible ex-husband, the horrible boss, etc… To change your perspective, ask yourself “What is this telling me about ME?”
What is really going on?  Look at what beliefs, what fears, in us might have created this situation.

When we buy into our own story, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. “SEE! it happened just like I thought it would!” Of course it did! …we create our own reality, and we did a wonderful job of creating the story in front of us. And the painful truth is, until we shift our story, we will keep creating it over and over again in our lives.

So rather than buying into our story, we can change our perspective and see the situation as neither good nor bad, but as an opportunity to learn something about ourselves. Awareness is the first step in changing our story.

Look at our situation from a higher perspective, and ask "What is this showing me about ME?"


About Deanna Wind Haven Shaman

Deanna Strandquist is a modern day Shaman who uses the ancient wisdom in our modern world. Working with a shaman is an approach to self care that puts you in charge to‍‍‍ clear a full range of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual influences that affect your overall well being. When the traditional methods are no longer working, consider exploring another way to break free to live your life in an authentic way.
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3 Responses to Change our Story

  1. silkroadvisions says:

    Hi Deanna,

    I really liked you observations here. Very timely. It reminded me of how the Navajo have someone handle a story about being wronged, where they have been hurt…they can come to the Circle 3 times and tell their story in great detail, and will have the attention of the Circle members. But that’s it! Three times, and over, done with, move on…try it a 4th time and the Circle turn their back..

    It sort of made me think of an article I want to write about going over your whole “life story” so far, at different stages and ages…looking for a different story, deliverably, perhaps, each time you tell your life story to yourself…It might be interesting in a series of group workshops, meeting once a week and working on stories, either Life Story and or mini-stories to deal with specific bad times…

    I imagine it would generate a lot of “Big Dreams” so you’d have to start a dreamwork group separately! Anyway, I thought you’d enjoy this link here, below…

    • Deanna says:

      Excellent thoughts! Thanks so much for your comments.

      I certainly agree with you, people don’t want to go inside and feel that bad feeling, but it is so important to feel it, then let it go.

      Yes, when we tell our story again, we relive the hurt in our body as if it was happening all over again. So your comments on changing that story are very good advice.


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